This class (https://forbiddentickets.com/events/pandastory/458e72d1c7) was born through a specific experience - while teaching a class on D/s, panda was asked how it could have multiple dominant partners. Didn’t the other partners get jealous? What happened if there were differing desires? The question baffled panda a little at first, as it had never considered having multiple dominants as a thing that couldn’t be possible.

I get a % of sales but the educators are amazing!

#ENM #Polyamory #BDSM
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So... uh... any good books/resources on polyamory that a total newbie should consider?

“Ugh, we have the worst timing ”
- boring
- suggests it’s our fault
- sounds insurmountable and defeatist

“The Fates have determined we must never meet”
- exciting
- we can and must defy the Fates!
- sex that goes against the will of the gods is gonna be hot as fuck

Anyone else crying their eyes out because you had to break up with a guy for his own good, because he couldn't be polyaccepting anymore than you could be monogamous? I've had so much else going on in my life that I think it's only a month after that I can do my grievance. I'm a mess tonight. We really love(d) each other and tried so hard.
#love #breakup #polyamory #polyamorist #ethicalnonmonogamy #enm #monogamy #relationships #humans #mentalhealth

Hi there! I'm new to the fediverse and excited to be here x

Trans poly autistic AuDHD gothy witchy techie thinky girlie reporting in!

Based in the UK, I'm a principal software engineer with a masters in physics.a I spend my time with friends, thinking about software and writing code. Sometimes I write poetry, do fun DIY projects or cross stitch too!

Avid video essay enjoyer and fan of anything that engages my brain and my hands.

Super into metal, emo and rock but also jazz, hip hop and rnb

#ENM #neurodivergent #AuDHD #adhd #autism #architecture #software #feminism #witch #straightish #trans #transwoman #transfemme #goth #metal #woman #tech #physics

A lexicon of current playmates:

Partner: My committed partner of two decades. In poly/ENM terms, he's my primary partner.

ITGuy: A good friend of mine and Partner's, and a playmate of mine for about ten years.

Engineer: My newest playmate. He's a retired aerospace engineer.

UncutGuy: An on and off playmate for a few months. He's very busy, so I don't get to see him much.

BigDickBumbleGuy: Was seeing this guy for a few months, but it sort of fell apart simply due to incompatible schedules. This guy has an ENORMOUS cock.

Today's agenda:
Meeting an old Joyfriend for lunch who wants to introduce me to his new partner.

While I'm always happy to do these, I gotta admit I'm puzzled by them.

Hm.
I just recognized that reaction as a holdover from some previous intimacy crap.

#37c3 Relationship Geek Get Together • Day 3 • 18:00 • Stage Y • de/en • Let's hang out and talk about #polyamory , #relationshipanarchy and #enm https://events.ccc.de/congress/2023/hub/en/event/relationship-geeks-get-together/

Things I've learned from spending the morning on Relationship Tok:

*Folks are obsessed with controlling their partners. Their dress. Their behavior. Their time. Their other relationships.

*People do not like boundaries or wouldn't recognize a boundary if it sat up and said, No thanks.

*Most folks learned this crap in their own families and get really upset when told it's unhealthy and problematic.

*The youth are expert in this controlling relationship crap out the gate -- which is gross and alarming.

*Respectability rules in relationships are a tool of social control and it's typically gendered.

*Folks are afraid of freedom. Their own and their partner's.

I don't want to control my partners. (First, that's exhausting as hell. I ain't got time for that.) They are free. I am free. Freedom is great for everyone.

God I'm so glad that I put in the time over the past 4 years to unlearn and unpack that toxic, controlling shit.

Yay me!

While at the Munch:

One of your Joyfriends brings his partner over who wants your advice on a thing;

You give her advice on the thing;

Another Joyfriend introduces you to a new friend of theirs (and a mutual friend) and SHE wants to be friends and wants mentorship on a thing;

A mutual of a mutual introduces you to two more awesome folks they know (who immediately connect online) and suddenly, you find yourself in the middle of a community.

#Poly and #ENM don't have to be about drama, y'all.

Today's Joyfriend Birthday Treat:

Joyfriend R brought me a very large pumpkin latte, and we had a long chin wag, catching up on family and friends. We talked a lot about dying and the way of Buddhism.

What I like about relationship anarchy and being #SoPo is that every relationship has its own vibe. Ours used to have shenanigans. And perhaps it will again.

But for now, we flirt, he brings me coffee and gives me a good foot massage after I've injured myself.

That's top-tier relationshipping, that.

checking on my Feeld pings with dread.

it might be time to update my profile for lulz again.

@Blackfist
Solo Poly.

I love it. It suits my needs (and politics) amazingly well. Generally, I describe myself as a feminist SoPo D-Type with a wide streak of R/A (relationship anarchy).

#ENM #SoPo #SoloPoly

https://www.webmd.com/sex/what-is-solo-polyamory#:~:text=Solo%20polyamory%20means%20that%20someone,partners'%20lives%20become%20more%20intertwined.

Why I'm #SoPo and date as un-heteronormatively as I can. (Shout out to the Joyfriends+ Heaux I spend time with.)

Because *who* has time to be a Feminist Studies tutor for her partner at this stage? Not me.

Yesterday I told a girlfriend that at 53 I'm basically dating myself and shenanigans-ing who I want, when I want, if I want.

I've got a drivers license to get and a passport to renew. Nobody has time for comp het nonsense.

#FLR #FeministPoly #ENM #DatingInTheBay #LadyBachelorWithADog

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