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Autistic Coach After I figured out I’m Autistic and started working things out, I felt lighter.
I started getting interested in things again, started getting excited about new possibilities, and approaching old things again for the first time in this Second Chance life that I was building for myself.
holly @StarkRG @GinevraCat @pathfinder @actuallyautistic @mxyzptlk I have a study bookmarked that I haven’t read yet that supposedly shows NT’s view their interactions with autists more favorably if they know they’re #autistic from the beginning. And this perhaps explains a particular problem I have as a heavy masker… when the mask inevitably slips It’s disconcerting for NTs because it’s unexpected.
Here's a 16-minute presentation I recorded in 2021, explaining the key things teachers need to understand about neurodiversity.
#EduSky #autistic #inclusion
youtu.be/vxYKIM9_yD0?...
Neurodiversity for Teachers
Happy #AutisticPrideDay to all my fellow #Autistic people on the Fediverse! 
Tomorrow I’ll be offering a huge discount on some of my services to my newsletter subscribers, for Autistic Pride Day.
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VERY URGENT
A wonderful & resilient friend, who is a Black queer autistic trans woman, NEEDS our help so she can escape form an abusive home! She's been struggling so long and deserves a safe home!
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I've said for years that therapy is not just useless but often counterproductive for us #neurodivergent folk. This video is a nice example of that. It *seems* like good advice for the typical person: self-acceptance, self-confidence, growing past your childhood, handling trauma, the usual stuff. But, like every other psychology video I've seen that wasn't specifically focused on neurodivergence, it only speaks to neurotypicals. And the advice the therapist gives is not helpful for people like me.
I'm #AuDHD, so your mileage may vary, but for me, this advice is crap. My challenge isn't self-acceptance or overcoming some irrational fear of rejection. It's the #DoubleEmpathyProblem, and how neurotypicals judge me superficially based on neurological differences that prevent me from doing non-verbal affect their way so we can connect emotionally. It's the #SocialModelOfDisability that lets people declare me the one with the problem because I'm in the minority, so they expect me to always be the one to adapt to their communication style. It's that I don't get to process my childhood trauma of rejection, neglect, and abuse, because I continue to experience that even now in my 60s, and you can't process and heal trauma until you aren't in the traumatizing situation anymore.
If I took this therapist's advice to heart, I would just make things worse for myself. I know, because I have walked that road before, and all that happened was I got lost and hurt. An old therapist of mine told me I just need to be more confident and put myself out there, and people will respond. I actually laughed at her. Then I went out and found an autistic therapist so I didn't have to hear that crap anymore.
This is a big part of why it's hard to be neurodivergent in our society: we are excluded by default. We aren't even an afterthought - we're a neverthought. Nobody thinks of us unless we become a problem they have to deal with. So when we ask to be included, they see us as a problem and usually get defensive and then go on to justify why they forgot about us. How hard would it be for this Mended Light therapist to include a sentence or two saying this advice wasn't for ND folk and we should not try to follow it? How hard would it be for him to include some useful advice for us, which might also help NT folk watching the video to understand us better?
My dear neurokin, be careful consuming advice from people that don't understand us and that isn't meant for us. We're not the same as them, and we don't succeed by acting like we are. And to people making psychology videos, could you maybe remember we exist and include us even when you're not speaking specifically to us?
[Mended Light: How to Get Over the Pain of Rejection and Be Authentically YOU!]
https://youtu.be/3GpY1NefXuQ
What can #ChatGPT do that my brain can’t do better?!?
Tell people exactly what they want to hear even if it’s a lie
I’ve made a personal decision that I’m always going to be honest with people because I am so over playing games of trying to guess what someone is thinking.
On Wednesday, I’ll be offering a huge discount on some of my services to my newsletter subscribers, for Autistic Pride Day.
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Just because you’ve been told something over and over doesn’t make it true.
I’m feeling really happy and full of energy right now, clapping my hands because of all the nice comments, thank you all.
Unmasking is hard for me, but it’s something I want to work on. That’s a clear goal I’m focusing towards.
Just writing about unmasking made me feel embarrassed and I found myself masking again behind my computer screen, lol. Hey, I’m not always sure what to say or how to say it. You do you and I’ll do me. Cool? Cool.
Unmasking is hard for me. When I overshare about myself and am open, it helps me unmask better. I know we need to mask sometimes, but it can be really tiring.
I used to mask almost all day, like 98 percent of the time. Now, I think I mask closer to 67 percent of the day. That number isn’t exact, but it gives an idea of how much things have changed.
The percentage is going down, which feels like progress. Being more open lets me be myself more often, and that feels good.
@Zumbador @muninn @actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd
footnote:
writing this down feels kind of strange. Like, it sounds so dramatic! When it’s so normal for me.
But I can’t help thinking of the BBC journalist in the documentary about Temple Grandin who said “We have no idea how hard it is for #autistic people to cope in our world.”
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