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Evening sweethearts 💕

This is another one of my posts. CW. Those not in the mood for a little self-obsessed, albeit happy, sharing, feel free to give this a miss. No hard feelings. Many times, I would have done so, too, in your shoes. In my defence, one reason I feel able to post about personal joy now is that for much of my life, it has been very, very different

Anyway, for those still with me, I'll keep it brief

Since the time I had fallen out of the closet as a trans woman once and for all and began transitioning with my full commitment, I have not seen my mother. I still have not, and btw, I haven't seen her for over 15 years

She was not a great mother. Partly that's personal to her. She is a difficult, very repressed, socially conservative, self-centred, vindictive, judgemental.. <ahem> okay, I couldn't go on, but I won't. But there is another part. No one deserves the way my father treated her. Given the psychological and sexual abuse she endured, there were extra reasons why she was unable to love her children

So I left, went far away, and for many years, was entirely out of touch, but after my father died I reached out and we have had a distant but constant, by phone only, mother-son relationship that I have managed carefully to ensure neither of us gets hurt

Anyway, against this background, it wasn't surprising that she was the last person I came out to as a trans woman. Surprisingly (to me), that went quite well. She had no idea what trans meant, but she became quite accepting. However, there has been one thing I've resisted, despite her increasingly heartfelt requests.. sharinv with her a photo of myself as I now live. As a woman.

Tbh, I dreaded doing so. I feared seeing the reality would be different for her. I feared her tolerance thus far existed only because she hadn't really connected to the reality. Today, something trivial occurred that made me decide I'd roll that dice and let what happens happen. She once again and then repeatedly (absent mindedly) misgendered me and used my old name. I decided only seeing would be believing, took a decent selfie, and sent it

The range of responses I'd accounted for started with utter horror and ended with, at best, a self-controlled but insincere 'thanks for the pic'. Not in my wildest dreams did I consider the reaction I got to be on the cards

She called me back

'You look so much better as a woman than you ever did as a boy. So, so much prettier. I can't believe how pretty you are. I see this was always meant to be. You look so much more feminine than many women'

This difficult, traumatising, cold woman who neglected and frankly persecuted me throughout my childhood made my heart sing and gave me the greatest gift imaginable. Her words went a long way to silence my own inner transphobia, mg own cruel, self-punishing inner critic, and to make me believe in myself

That phone conversation is going to stick with me forever

That's all. Sorry for going on about myself like this. I just had to share with someone.. and you lot were there

Love you all. Know this - the darkness can seem eternal and then.. it can just lift. Thanks for reading lovelies. J can't be bothered to check for typos and edit this one. You'll work it out 😉 Have a great evening, peeps 💕

Glitzer statt Queerphobie am 12. Juli beim CSD Kiel! Ich als Ü50-„weißer”-cis-het-Mann bin gegen Diskriminierung und für Vielfalt. Ich bin dabei, weil ALLE das Recht haben, zu lieben wen sie wollen! Sehen wir uns? 🌈
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PRIDE MONTH this year was SO FUN!!!!!

i got to:

• go to the kickoff pride in the park event with my tits out wearing a tail plug

• see my favorite band Food House live the very next day

• go to the four-day north american toki pona meetup

• and do the epic end-of-month Pride Gauntlet that is trans pride (which i also went tits out at) and the two pridefests

and along the way i kept running into peeps i knew or who knew me. it was great!!! overall an awesome amazing experience. even better than the past two years. fuck yeah!!!!!!!!!! :3

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Equality and Diversity UK resources / training Wishlist! (Part 6 / EVEN FURTHER BEYOND continued)

26. Practical Tools for the Delivery of Equality and Diversity equalityanddiversity.co.uk/sho
27. Sports and Community Clubs Induction Pack equalityanddiversity.co.uk/sho
28. Building Equality into the Curriculum equalityanddiversity.co.uk/sho
29. Equality and Diversity Toolkit for Local Authorities equalityanddiversity.co.uk/sho
30. Managing Diversity and Inclusion in the NHS equalityanddiversity.co.uk/sho

If you're an ally to anyone else, please consider these resources too.

You might enjoy them, learn from them, share with others, practise with others, help someone else feel comfortable around you, disclose their own Protected Characteristics, or just... feel better about trying to help at all.
Baby steps in the face of overwhelm is okay.
Just start somewhere, wherever you can.

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Equality and Diversity UK resources / training Wishlist! (Part 5 / further beyond continued)

20. Let's Talk about Race [baby!] resources equalityanddiversity.co.uk/sho
21. Allyship: Supporting Black colleagues in the workplace equalityanddiversity.co.uk/sho
22. Caring for Ethnically Diverse Children in Foster Care equalityanddiversity.co.uk/sho
23. Managing and Avoiding Microaggressions in the Workplace equalityanddiversity.co.uk/sho
24. Practical Tools for the Delivery of Equality and Diversity equalityanddiversity.co.uk/sho
25. Self-Assessment Toolkit equalityanddiversity.co.uk/sho

If you're an ally to anyone else, please consider these resources too.

You might enjoy them, learn from them, share with others, practise with others, help someone else feel comfortable around you, disclose their own Protected Characteristics, or just... feel better about trying to help at all.
Baby steps in the face of overwhelm is okay.
Just start somewhere, wherever you can.

equalityanddiversity.co.ukEquality and diversity resourcesEquality and diversity resources covering a wide range of EDI issues
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Equality and Diversity UK resources / training Wishlist! (Part 4 / beyond continued)

19. Neuro-Inclusive Workplace - Pocketbook;
Highway Code to Equality in Schools - Pocketbook;
Managing and Avoiding Unconscious Biases in the Workplace - Handbook;
Fostering Good Relations - Pocketbook;
Guide to being an Active Anti-Racism Bystander in the Workplace;
Foster Carers Race Awareness Pocketbook; Anti-Racist Strategies for the Workplace;
Cultural Competency Guidance and Activity Pack;
Navigating Racism in Schools Pocketbook;
Understanding and Addressing Microaggressions in University Settings Pocketbook;
Embracing Cultural Competence in Healthcare;
Neurodiversity in the Workplace Pocketbook;
Communicating for Racial Justice Pocketbook;
Toolkit for addressing educational disadvantage for ethnically diverse children and young people in UK schools;
Navigating the Diversity Landscape Pocketbook;
Community-Led Housing in Ethnically Diverse Communities Toolkit;
Anger Management in the Workplace Pocketbook;
EDI Good Practice for Volunteers;
Addressing Bullying Allegations;
Board of Trustees Good Practice Guidance Pocketbook;
Cultural Competence in Public Services;
Understanding Microaggressions Pocketbook;
Creating Inclusive and Safe EDI Sessions;
White Privilege, Microaggressions and Intersectionality Pocket Book;
Reciprocal Mentoring Pocketbook;
Courageous Conversations on Anti-Racism in Schools;
Support document for Education Providers;
Preparing Apprenticeships for the Workplace;
Sexual Harassment Pocketbook;
The EDI Role in Shaping Organisational Culture, Performance, and Leadership;
Pocketbook for EDI Leads, Trainers, and Management;
EDI Bingo activities;
EDI Policies Guidance;
Healthy Relationships Pocketbook;
Community Impact Assessment Plain English;
Understanding Neurodiversity in Ethnically Diverse Communities Easy Read

If you're an ally to anyone else, please consider these resources too.

You might enjoy them, learn from them, share with others, practise with others, help someone else feel comfortable around you, disclose their own Protected Characteristics, or just... feel better about trying to help at all.
Baby steps in the face of overwhelm is okay.
Just start somewhere, wherever you can.

equalityanddiversity.co.ukEquality and diversity resourcesEquality and diversity resources covering a wide range of EDI issues
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Equality and Diversity UK resources / training Wishlist! (Part 3 / more continued)

15. Equality Act Good Practice Guide equalityanddiversity.co.uk/sho
16. Creating Inclusive and Respectful Working Environments equalityanddiversity.co.uk/sho
17. Recruitment and Selection: Guide for reaching and retaining diverse talent equalityanddiversity.co.uk/sho
18. Recruitment, Selection, and Inclusive Practices Pocketbook for Schools equalityanddiversity.co.uk/sho

If you're an ally to anyone else, please consider these resources too.

You might enjoy them, learn from them, share with others, practise with others, help someone else feel comfortable around you, disclose their own Protected Characteristics, or just... feel better about trying to help at all.
Baby steps in the face of overwhelm is okay.
Just start somewhere, wherever you can.

equalityanddiversity.co.ukEquality and diversity resourcesEquality and diversity resources covering a wide range of EDI issues
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Equality and Diversity UK resources / training Wishlist! (Part 2 / continued)

8. Definitions and Terminology Pocket Book equalityanddiversity.co.uk/sho
9. Gender Diversity Booklet equalityanddiversity.co.uk/sho
10. Disability in Goods, Services, and Facilities equalityanddiversity.co.uk/sho
11. Unconscious Bias in Recruitment and Selection [Yes, I know being aware of biases does NOT erase them. Avowed racists can be aware of their biases, and avowed active anti-racists can also still struggle to counteract their upbringings. Still, it's a starting point.] equalityanddiversity.co.uk/sho
12. Unconscious Bias Case Studies [Yeah, this is a good next step: actually try to unpick barriers to common usage.] equalityanddiversity.co.uk/sho
13. Equality, Diversity and Inclusion Pocketbook for Airports equalityanddiversity.co.uk/sho
14. FE College - Managers, teachers and support staff Lesson Plan equalityanddiversity.co.uk/sho

If you're an ally to anyone else, please consider these resources too.
You might enjoy them, learn from them, share with others, practise with others, help someone else feel comfortable around you, disclose their own Protected Characteristics, or just... feel better about trying to help at all. Baby steps in the face of overwhelm is okay. Just start somewhere, wherever you can.

equalityanddiversity.co.ukEquality and diversity resourcesEquality and diversity resources covering a wide range of EDI issues
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Equality and Diversity UK resources / training Wishlist!
1. Looking at Learning and Development in a Different Way equalityanddiversity.co.uk/sho and
2. Courageous Conversations equalityanddiversity.co.uk/sho and
3. Everday EDI Good Practice for Freelance Artists equalityanddiversity.co.uk/sho and
4. Reasonable Adjustments RAs Pocket Book equalityanddiversity.co.uk/sho and
5. Protected Characteristics Pocket Book equalityanddiversity.co.uk/sho and
6. Mental Health First Aid Course equalityanddiversity.co.uk/men and
7. Equality Impact Assessment Training equalityanddiversity.co.uk/equ

Obv more, but these are already kinda expensive. Shortlist time. If you're an ally to anyone else, please consider these resources too.

You might enjoy them, learn from them, share with others, practise with others, help someone else feel comfortable around you, disclose their own Protected Characteristics, or just... feel better about trying to help at all.
Baby steps in the face of overwhelm is okay.
Just start somewhere, wherever you can.

equalityanddiversity.co.ukEquality and diversity resourcesEquality and diversity resources covering a wide range of EDI issues

What a successful multilingual Editathon during Wiki Loves Pride 2025 !! 🌈 🌈

Thanks all who could contribute and improve the LGBTI+ subjects on Wikipedia in June. 🙏

1. 285 articles in English en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Event:Wi
3. 152 in French fr.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wikip%C3
4. 352 in Spanish es.wikipedia.org/wiki/Evento:M

On Wikimedia Commons, already 602 photos, but you still have time till July 15 for uploading photos : commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/Cam

@wmlgbt

This past Saturday, June 28, 2025, what was supposed to be Hungary’s smallest Pride ever, banned by parliament three months earlier, became its largest in history.
The ban that was supposed to end Pride became the very thing that saved it.
medium.com/prismnpen/the-pride

Prism & Pen · Budapest Pride 2025: How Hungary’s Ban Sparked a 200K March | Prism & PenBy Gino Cosme