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إِنْـطِـواءْ (introversion)

Among all the psychological schemes that describe behavior, I'd argue that introversion is the one that is the most misunderstood or misinterpreted; at least by the public domain I'd say.
Commonly, people imagine introvert people as those who just don't like to be around others much, or find their joy when being alone, or even shy. While all of that do have some truth in it, but it's not all the truth there is to be.
Introverts still yearn for that social connection - they can still go out and even party, but their "social battery" is just short-lived. They are picky when it comes to whom they connect with, because the wrong connection can easily cause their battery to be depleted. Now, imagine such individuals being in a social circle which has no connection at all - definitely, there is no way to recharge their batteries; Such batteries which are essential to let them feel good about themselves and that they are not going in this life alone, fighting all the invisible beasts of this life on their own. For this reason, I'd say, most introverts are mistaken to be loners or lonely people. For the majority of cases, they are indeed so, because they can't find the proper connection they are yearning for. The world feels, to them, just a jungle with roaring animals without any meaningful aim or purpose but to show the power and might of each one of them. Thus, the nutshell tightens as the time ticks away off their lives.
The next time you see a loner or seemingly a lonely person, check them out, as they might just be some introverts who lost connections to the outside world, and might need help to find one, before their batteries die out - like me…

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@Pinchy63 @Dianora
As an #introvert with #SocialAnxiety I totally get it.

At a party or similar, meet someone w/ common interest.

Would I talk to them in the circle of 6 ppl? Hell to the no.

But if I bumped into them outside 'cuz we were leaving at the same time, I might chat with them on the way to their car, then stand outside their car chatting for 20min.

Fedi & other SM is similar. More likely to test the waters of common interest in private 1:1 than by grabbing the mic @ the podium.

"Don't you ever feel lonely and jealous when your partner's out on a date and you're not?"

Haha, oh, my sweet summer child.

You underestimate what a treat it is to spend a night by myself, eating pizza bagels & watching Studio Ghibli, with absolutely no need to entertain anyone else.

Don't get me wrong -- I love my partners! But I love them a heck of a lot more when I get to be away from them sometimes.

Society expects us to live in each others' pockets, and to spend very little time alone. But for an introvert like me? Time all by myself, unobserved and unaccompanied, is an absolute necessity.

I love knowing that my more-extroverted partner is out getting their social needs met, while I'm having my delightful goblin-time.