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Cheshire (Alicja, Artemida and Mara)It's Monday already, huh.Here's my <a href="https://meow.social/tags/TransGEM" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#TransGEM</a> / <a href="https://meow.social/tags/GEM" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#GEM</a> from last week.I had to go piss at a mall/shopping centre, as sometimes happens.There was a very long line for the toilet. Even for a women's bathroom there was quite some wait.I was in a full face of make-up, shaved, but still. I was nervous. Going to public restrooms is always scary. Standing in line for one was terrifying. I was steeling myself for a fight. I felt like such an imposition.Nothing.Women behind me, women before me, young women, middle aged women, a woman with a kid.No arguments. No hostile comments. No stares. Nothing. Nothing when I entered the bathroom. Nothing when I was washing my hands.I don't know if I was passing well enough or if nobody said anything or even stared because women are cooler than I thought about trans girls.It was nice.My heart rate was still like 200 for a long time afterwards, the experience was still terrifying, but I wasn't made to feel like I didn't belong.

A Sweet GentlemanI've clear memories of little me, sitting by my bedroom window at night, looking at the summer sky.For years whenever I saw a shooting star I'd make the exact same wish, over and over again. "I wish to be happy."That's all I ever wanted.Well, it took some time and some work but my wish finally came true! <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/transjoy" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#transjoy</a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/TransGem" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#TransGem</a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/transgender" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#transgender</a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/GEM" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#GEM</a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/lgbtq" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#lgbtq</a>

Cheshire (Alicja, Artemida and Mara)For my <a href="https://meow.social/tags/GEM" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#GEM</a> / <a href="https://meow.social/tags/TransGEM" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#TransGEM</a> , here's sonething that hapened just several minutes back.I'm on a forest walk. A lady riding a bike in my direction gendered me correctly. I'll note that i'm wearing a skirt, but also haven't shaved in two days and it shows.When she saw me up close and/or heard my voice, she made what can only be desceibed as A Face, capital letters mandatory.But - no takesies-backsies! Not that she did.I loved her displeasure. Yes, I'm a petty bitch; what of it? xD

Cait the Proud Trans WomanOoh, it's Monday, time for a Trans GEM (Gender Euphoria Moment). Mine today comes from just a few minutes ago. On Discord. I was greeting my friends in our little community, welcoming the day and checking in. And the sheer unadulterated joy, the laughter, and deep pleasure I experienced...may I say it? The euphoria? Was in realising these are my people. That being trans has brought me this incredible group of friends (many of whom are not on that server, to be clear - some of them are reading this), whom I trust and rely on in a way I've never felt before. When I transitioned, it was alone. I had a couple of cis women who stuck by me, but that was it. I knew other trans people only to say hi in the gender clinic. Internet was only recently a thing. And the clinic made sure we stayed alone. We were strongly advised *NOT* to spend time around other trans people, lest it threaten our ability to be stealth. So to now be surrounded on all sides by a massive wall of friends, any of whom I can count on to have my back if things go sideways...some days it just hits a lot harder. I genuinely love you all. Yes, even you in the back there. I see you. <a href="https://wargamers.social/tags/TransGEM" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#TransGEM</a> <a href="https://wargamers.social/tags/GEM" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#GEM</a>

A Sweet GentlemanMy neverending joy: knowing it wasn't my fault.As a kid I figured that since no one else was like me there was something wrong with me.For French therapists it was entirely up to me to make an effort and accept my femininity.I felt guilty and ashamed for more than 30 years, convinced it was my fault I wasn't able to be a happy woman.My greatest joy when I came out was, still is, not feeling this guilt and shame anymore. It never was my fault. I was right all along.<a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/transGEM" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#transGEM</a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/GEM" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#GEM</a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/pride" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#pride</a>

Exandra<a href="https://wargamers.social/@oldladyplays" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@oldladyplays</a> <a href="https://chaosfem.tw/tags/GEM" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#GEM</a> a freind I haven't seen in a while saw me and said wait, you look so pretty, you look different, what did you do?❤️Best ffs reaction I had yet

Cait the Proud Trans WomanSo, my beauties and handsomes and pulchritudinous enbies, and everyone else who thinks of themselves as trans in some way. It's Monday, and that's the day we specially pick to post to the hashtags <a href="https://wargamers.social/tags/TransGEM" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#TransGEM</a> and <a href="https://wargamers.social/tags/GEM" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#GEM</a>. TransGEM is for your Trans-related Gender Euphoria Moments: the happy things that you experienced this past week from your gender. It can be as small as "I got ma'amed by the cashier at my bank!" or "my chest hair started growing in!" or "I totally confused someone who was trying to guess my gender today!" It could be huge. Whatever made you happy. The <a href="https://wargamers.social/tags/GEM" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#GEM</a> hashtag is specifically for everyone who isn't trans, or doesn't vibe with the trans label. So yes, you cis people, this one deliberately includes you. So think about it. What moments did you experience this week that made you feel good about your gender? Women: did you get unusually listened to in business meetings by men? Or got a nice compliment from a stranger that made you feel good? Or just felt really pretty one day, or smart, or whatever makes you happy about being a woman?Men: did you have a great workout and felt joy in your body? Did someone call you handsome and it felt good? Get your beard trimmed by a pro, feeling like you look your best? Share your joy, my friends. Show everyone that cis people experience gender euphoria too, and that trans people's lives have regular moments of sheer happiness just from being ourselves.

Cait the Proud Trans WomanMy <a href="https://wargamers.social/tags/TransGEM" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#TransGEM</a> this week is the following Gender Euphoria Moment:I spent Saturday afternoon at a queer swim event put on by the city. We had a great turnout, over 50 people, from kids to seniors, of all sorts of queer folk. Lots of trans people of various types, top surgery scars, people in their first femme bathing suit, just euphoria all around me. I looked at the bodies of cis women around me, and realised I look more like them than I thought. And I felt beautiful in my bathing suit, despite being fat and old*. *"Despite" because conventional standards say being old and fat are marks *against* being attractive. I am both, and I do no harm to myself in saying so: these are neutral adjectives. They describe me. They don't hurt me. So yes, I feel beautiful *despite* that society wants me to believe I can't be. <a href="https://wargamers.social/tags/GEM" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#GEM</a>

Cait the Proud Trans WomanAlright, my loves, it's time for another <a href="https://wargamers.social/tags/TransGEM" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#TransGEM</a> day! Share your Trans Gender Euphoria Moments under the hashtag <a href="https://wargamers.social/tags/TransGEM" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#TransGEM</a>, or if you're not trans/non-binary/two-spirit, under the hashtag <a href="https://wargamers.social/tags/GEM" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#GEM</a>. Then follow the hashtags and enjoy the sweet, sweet joy that rolls in. My GEM for this week is from last Thursday, when I stood at a Women of the Year awards ceremony to cheer for my friend who won in my category. She beat me, sure, but she's pretty amazing and I'm happy. But I, an out trans woman, was nominated for Woman of the Year in my city. Come a long, long way in 33 years.

erik eva :heart_trans:last week I found out my psychiatrist refers to me with she/her in her notes! most people use he/him and that's fine, because that's how I look. but reading this gave me so much joy, I was surprised. :blobhaj_heartslove: <a href="https://todon.nl/tags/TransGEM" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#TransGEM</a> <a href="https://todon.nl/tags/GEM" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#GEM</a>

A Sweet GentlemanMy facial hair is now quite visible but not thick enough (yet) to look really good so I decided to shave.It was bliss.The typical gestures of shaving, the little scrrrtchhh sound of the razor, all these small things that I've seen men doing so often... now I'm doing them!Happiness doesn't describe the feeling. It felt perfectly right. I felt perfectly myself.And to think that it's something I'll have to do regularly definitely brings me a lot of joy!<a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/TransGEM" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#TransGEM</a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/GEM" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#GEM</a> <a href="https://mstdn.social/tags/transEuphoria" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#transEuphoria</a>

Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️Yesterday I washed my hair and it did exactly what I wanted and looked good the entire day. :BlobhajTransPrideHeart: <a href="https://chaosfem.tw/tags/TransGEM" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#TransGEM</a> <a href="https://chaosfem.tw/tags/GEM" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#GEM</a> <a href="https://wargamers.social/@oldladyplays" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@oldladyplays</a>

I am Tully's burning justiciarabout this time last year, I had seen someone's observation of the biggest differences between how men relate to other men, and how women relate to other women. among them was that women will compliment one another to make them feel included, while men will construct little moments where the other can fit in seamlessly.about a week later, I was at a concert wearing a "protect trans kids" tee under a pretty-but-not-particularly-femme button-down shirt. before the show started, a woman in the row in front of me complimented me on my appearance. while this caught me off guard sightly, I accepted the compliment, and we talked briefly until the music started playing.remembering what I had read the week before, I realised that this was the first time a woman had related to me as she would another.to be clear, "woman" is not part of my identity. but this kind of interaction filled me with joy nonetheless: I had been seen (and treated) as not-a-man by a complete stranger.and I rode that high all night.<a href="https://weirder.earth/tags/TransGEM" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#TransGEM</a> <a href="https://weirder.earth/tags/GEM" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#GEM</a>

Cait the Proud Trans WomanI made the suggestion of <a href="https://wargamers.social/tags/TransGEM" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#TransGEM</a> and <a href="https://wargamers.social/tags/GEM" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#GEM</a> yesterday for a very good set of reasons, which i would like to make explicit. 1. I want trans people (meaning in this case "anyone not vibing with their canonical sex") to be seen as people seeking joy, rather than people seeking relief from misery. While i think the latter can be a common initial motivation, it frequently changes to joy-seeking once we discover what gender euphoria is. 2. I want cis people to see how ubiquitous and idiosyncratic trans expressions of gender euphoria are. How small they can be, and how large. 3. I want trans people who are hiding bc they don't see themselves as refugees from misery, to know they are as valid as any other trans person. 4. I want cis people to begin to recognise gender euphoria they.experience, so they can relate to us better.5. I want everyone to see that trans lives, when supported and and being given space to just be, can be places of joy, so that families will no longer feel so much grief and/or fear when their trans loved ones reveal themselves.So i strongly encourage my fellow trans and nonbinary and gendered-or-not-in-other-ways people to post to the hashtag. I encourage even more strongly that cis people follow it, and maybe even boost those that speak to you so your other cis friends will see them. We know from long human history that the other is easy to demonize. That the best counter to this is humanization of that other. That is the goal of sharing our GEMs with each other.

Wrenasaurus Tex :trans_heart:One of my friends here on Mastodon, <a href="https://wargamers.social/@oldladyplays" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@oldladyplays</a> has started a hashtag that of which I just love the idea. And I hope it catches some traction as we head toward <a href="https://beige.party/tags/Pride2025" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#Pride2025</a> So for my <a href="https://beige.party/tags/TransGem" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#TransGem</a> installment for this week comes because of my boots. I have a pair of lace up, calf high, leather moto type boots that I absolutely love. I get compliments on the a lot when I wear them and yesterday was no different. My wife and I went to dinner with one of her friends who is moving away and she just gushed over my boots.Never gets old. It never, ever gets old having a cister compliment me on how put together I look with an outfit.Bonus <a href="https://beige.party/tags/GEM" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#GEM</a> story: Her husband who is this tall, lanky, sports-loving, video game playing, loves-his-kids, just a really-good-guy, dude is always sweet to me. But yesterday he gave me a hug as we were leaving and said, "we're so glad we got to see you two one more time before we leave." 😊 <a href="https://wargamers.social/@oldladyplays/114530091321253227" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" translate="no" target="_blank">https://wargamers.social/@oldladyplays/114530091321253227</a>

Cheshire (Alicja, Artemida and Mara)<a href="https://meow.social/tags/transGEM" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#transGEM</a> <a href="https://meow.social/tags/GEM" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#GEM</a>For my first Gender Euphoria Monday, I'mma go with something less obvious.Was at a concert. Saw a woman sitting alone, bought her a drink, chatted a bit.It didn't lead to anything, but this was the first time in my life that I flirted/tried to pick up/wooed a stranger while being openly a woman.And it hits different. Getting a "thanks but not interested" as a lesbian is ten times better than a "sure, sounds good" as a "straight" "guy".It's kind of impossible to put the difference into words, but it's a whole different emotional landscape!

Willow, Venus Pirate 🏳️‍⚧️<a href="https://chaosfem.tw/tags/TransGEM" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#TransGEM</a> <a href="https://chaosfem.tw/tags/GEM" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#GEM</a> <a href="https://chaosfem.tw/tags/GenderEuphoriaMoment" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#GenderEuphoriaMoment</a> Listening to my electrologist talk about her emotional trauma ‘cause I’m one of the girls as she electrocutes my natal genitals.

rowan {Sierra sunshine woman}<a href="https://chaosfem.tw/tags/TransGEM" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#TransGEM</a> <a href="https://chaosfem.tw/tags/GEM" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#GEM</a><a href="https://wargamers.social/@oldladyplays" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@oldladyplays</a> suggested this, so hey, here we are.My partner has been playing with a community orchestra since we moved to the Bay Area in 2006. Many of the people in the orchestra have also been playing with them that whole time, and we've gotten to know some of them - not like have dinner together well, but stop by and give our kid a coloring book well. Point being, they've known me a good long time.Yesterday at the end of season orchestra concert, I was chatting with one of them that we've known the whole time at intermission. My partner relayed to me that after the concert, she came up to my partner and said, "She's looking more and more beautiful!" And my partner answered, "Yes, she is, isn't she?"

Faith, purple-haired feminist :v_tg: :v_lb: :v_greyace:My gender euphoria moment this week is actually a week old. I bought my first bikini a week ago! 👙I've had a women's swimsuit for a couple years but it was a one-piece with a skirt. This is a bikini and I actually feel pretty great wearing it. 🥰 I haven't gone swimming yet because it's still pretty cold here but should be able to in the next few weeks.<a href="https://anarres.family/tags/TransGEM" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#TransGEM</a> <a href="https://anarres.family/tags/GEM" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#GEM</a>

imdat celeste :v_tg: :v_nb: :v_genderfluid: [witchzard]So, <a href="https://tau-ceti.space/tags/LoveOfMyLife" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#LoveOfMyLife</a> is cis "het" - well, "het", not het.Her: "I am afraid of realizing, one day, I need something else" (than what I, Imdat Celeste, can provide in a romantic relationship) Me: "Please don't take this the wrong way, but that's something that you should've realized some 2.5 years ago, because... " her: "... because?" Me: "Do you really think you could have a cis het man as partner? Do you really think you could live together with a cis het man - after these >3 years of transition that we both went through together?" Her: "😳 - oh fuck, you're right, no way!!" Me: "..."<a href="https://tau-ceti.space/tags/TransGEM" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#TransGEM</a> <a href="https://tau-ceti.space/tags/GEM" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#GEM</a>

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