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NeeAnahQuestion. Is there anyone here who is also on the path of quitting marijuana? I need support. I feel super lonely in this. It's been hard to enjoy anything. I am having a lot of nightmares. I feel so low. Everything hurts. I don't know how to talk to people. I'm having a hard time even putting thoughts together. It's been challenging.

Margaret SeftonI think plants are a great reminder when one is in the midst of setting boundaries in co-dependent relationships that beautiful things survive and thrive on their own without much fussing. <a href="https://writing.exchange/tags/plants" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#plants</a> <a href="https://writing.exchange/tags/codependency" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#codependency</a> <a href="https://writing.exchange/tags/depression" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#depression</a>

Michele HappeHere is my updated listing with psychology today. Have a gander!<a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/buddhist" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#buddhist</a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/neurodivergent" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#neurodivergent</a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/coaching" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#coaching</a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/recovery" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#recovery</a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/codependency" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#codependency</a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/narcissism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#narcissism</a><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/michele-happe-reno-nv/64502" rel="nofollow noopener" translate="no" target="_blank">https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/michele-happe-reno-nv/64502</a>

Alexander Portnoy 🌊 🏳️‍🌈<a href="https://4bear.com/tags/HSP" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#HSP</a> <a href="https://4bear.com/tags/HighlySensitivePerson" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#HighlySensitivePerson</a> <a href="https://4bear.com/tags/Codependency" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#Codependency</a>

Janice Selbie<a href="https://mas.to/tags/religioustrauma" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#religioustrauma</a> Setting & enforcing <a href="https://mas.to/tags/boundaries" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#boundaries</a> can feel frightening to those of us raised in religious families where <a href="https://mas.to/tags/codependency" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#codependency</a> was demanded.

Janice SelbieEspecially important for those raised in religious homes, where codependency is encouraged. <a href="https://mas.to/tags/ReligiousTrauma" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#ReligiousTrauma</a> <a href="https://mas.to/tags/codependency" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#codependency</a>

Janice SelbieSTOP trying to please your narcissistic parent. Let that shit go. Pour your energy into your own healing and happiness, instead. You're worth it. <a href="https://mas.to/tags/codependency" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#codependency</a> <a href="https://mas.to/tags/narcissism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#narcissism</a> <a href="https://mas.to/tags/ReligiousTrauma" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#ReligiousTrauma</a> <a href="https://mas.to/tags/family" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#family</a>

Janice SelbieHumour

Janice SelbieADVICE TO NEW <a href="https://mas.to/tags/atheists" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#atheists</a>1. Mourn your losses of <a href="https://mas.to/tags/identity" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#identity</a> community, & worldview 2. Read “Leaving the Fold” 3. Subscribe to <a href="https://youtube.com/@ComeToCORT" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">https://youtube.com/@ComeToCORT</a> 4. Get a secular <a href="https://mas.to/tags/therapist" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#therapist</a> 5. Beware the pull of <a href="https://mas.to/tags/fundamentalism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#fundamentalism</a> in any sphere 6. Educate yourself about how <a href="https://mas.to/tags/beliefs" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#beliefs</a> form (Hassan’s BITE Model) 7. Learn about <a href="https://mas.to/tags/codependency" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#codependency</a> 8. See that anger is both a part of the grieving process & an indication of boundary violation 9. Build a supportive <a href="https://mas.to/tags/secular" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#secular</a> network 10. Be compassionate with yourself

Janice SelbieReligious trauma

Janice SelbieFundamentalist parents can see their children as extensions of themselves, refusing to accept them for who they are. This can foster emotional enmeshment with their children, leading to a dysfunctional relationship where the child feels ultimately responsible for their parents’ feelings. See also: <a href="https://mas.to/tags/narcissistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#narcissistic</a> parents <a href="https://mas.to/tags/ReligiousTrauma" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#ReligiousTrauma</a> <a href="https://mas.to/tags/relationships" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#relationships</a> <a href="https://mas.to/tags/codependency" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#codependency</a> <a href="https://mas.to/tags/boundaries" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#boundaries</a> <a href="https://mas.to/tags/enmeshment" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#enmeshment</a> <a href="https://mas.to/tags/family" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#family</a>

Janice SelbieDivorce as transition

Janice SelbieAs an <a href="https://mas.to/tags/exchristian" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#exchristian</a> it can be hard to express personal <a href="https://mas.to/tags/anger" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#anger</a>. The key is in recognizing that anger typically indicates a violation of <a href="https://mas.to/tags/boundaries" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#boundaries</a>. <a href="https://mas.to/tags/religions" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#religions</a> have a vested interest in adherents remaining <a href="https://mas.to/tags/obedient" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#obedient</a> & <a href="https://mas.to/tags/subservient" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#subservient</a> , demanding they offer <a href="https://mas.to/tags/forgiveness" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#forgiveness</a>. This provides the perfect atmosphere for <a href="https://mas.to/tags/narcissistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#narcissistic</a> <a href="https://mas.to/tags/predators" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#predators</a> to take control. <a href="https://mas.to/tags/Christianity" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#Christianity</a> breeds <a href="https://mas.to/tags/codependency" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#codependency</a>. YOU ARE ALLOWED TO FEEL & EXPRESS ANGER. It is also a legitimate part of grief. <a href="https://mas.to/tags/atheist" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#atheist</a> <a href="https://mas.to/tags/psychology" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#psychology</a> <a href="https://mas.to/tags/healing" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#healing</a> <a href="https://mas.to/tags/RTS" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#RTS</a>

Janice SelbieAnother important truth: YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR OTHER PEOPLE’S FEELINGS. Especially engrain this truth in your being if you have narcissistic, manipulative, emotionally immature parents or other family members. <a href="https://mas.to/tags/Christianity" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#Christianity</a>, in particular, fosters <a href="https://mas.to/tags/codependency" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#codependency</a> and makes it hard to enjoy life without constantly serving or caring for others like a martyr. Grownups are responsible for themselves. <a href="https://mas.to/tags/Adulting" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#Adulting</a> <a href="https://mas.to/tags/ReligiousTrauma" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#ReligiousTrauma</a> <a href="https://mas.to/tags/narcissism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#narcissism</a> <a href="https://mas.to/tags/parenting" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#parenting</a> <a href="https://mas.to/tags/exchristian" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#exchristian</a> <a href="https://mas.to/tags/SecularHumanist" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#SecularHumanist</a> <a href="https://mas.to/tags/mentalhealth" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#mentalhealth</a>

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